A pastor at a couples conference once told us that being in a relationship is an unending circle of life. It goes around and around, repeating the same cycles. For instance, it starts off with puppy love, then to slight disagreements, followed by arguments, leading to forgiveness, then right back to step one, the puppy love stage. At first I didn’t really understand what He was saying. Forgiveness for what? And back to the puppy love stage? Pshhh yeah right… Yeah, he was right. You see, we have to forgive each other on a daily basis. Not for things that may have happened in the past, that’s over and done with. I mean after every little argument, after a comment that sounds insensitive or rude to you etc. In order to make a relationship work, forgiveness needs to be apart of your cycle. It will be so much harder for you otherwise. Bringing up something that happened yesterday won’t benefit any of you. Forgive. Never go to sleep mad because what you have waiting for you after the forgiveness stage, is the puppy love part all over again. I don’t know about anyone else, but that’s more than enough incentive for me. Then it goes around again: argument, “I’m sorry”- “no i’m sorry, you did nothing wrong” (been there, done that lol). Sometimes as a couple you have established different ways of resolving a problem. For example when Nav knows I’m not happy with him, he turns to me, smiles and pulls the magical question: “do you want ice-cream?” (I know right, how smooth). It probably won’t work for everyone, but it sure does for us lol it gets a laugh out of me or the fake evils (cos how can you give the real ones after the magic question) followed by a quick yes. Then next thing you know, you’re in love again and not wanting to run your spouse over with a car. Kidding, that’s not very Godly like. Don’t do that. But getting back on track. In a relationship or not, forgiveness is an important aspect of your spiritual life. Matthew 6:14-15 says:
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
If you can’t see it in your heart to forgive someone else for their wrongdoings, how do you expect God to forgive you for ALL of yours? We know that we aren’t perfect. Think of all the things that you have asked God to forgive you for no matter the severity. Gods gift of grace is an amazing thing. A favourite verse of mine, Psalm 103:10: He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. Imagine if God gave us what we really deserved (LOL). I don’t think I’d be living a happy life in all honesty. This is how PERFECT HE is. You become speechless and in awe of the most forgiving father, learning more about His heart as you read His word. He is constantly pouring out His amazing grace and I know for sure my cup is overflowing. What we need to be doing is uplifting one another, giving encouragement instead of holding grudges. We need to see the pureness and goodness in everyone. We need to remember that Jesus died for them as well. Happy forgiving everyone 🙂